>though personally, I never set out to simulate incontinence by wearing
Yeah, I suppose I have an incontinence fetish which made me seek out incontinence. And the practical issues can be difficult; most of the ABDLs who do 24/7 eventually move back to more moderate wearing for this reason. For me, I can't say I regret it, it does come with disadvantages but overall I'm much happier this way. Even in the past when I had no libido (from a prolactinoma, now treated) I still was happy being 24/7, so this isn't just a sexual thing for me, more comfort. (Same with nudism lol).
>Same reason wearing at work isn't really possible given that I have a fairly active job and lots of close contact with people I know personally. Anything more than a flimsy Depends brief would become obvious.
Yes, people must understand this. It's just not reasonable to think you can keep your wearing a secret forever, if you're doing it around people (especially people whom you see a lot, who have a better chance to notice these things). I thought I was going well keeping it private, but these things change with just one event/one moment. It doesn't bother me too much because, like I said, I just treat it as a medical thing and no-one cares too much
The thing is, one can do one's best to be discrete--take chlorophyll tablets to remove odor, get jeans that have more room in the seat--but ultimately there's a limit to the amount of privacy/discretion that is achievable when you wear full-time. And this is to some extent a function of just wearing 24/7, but it's also a function of society, because for "disabled" people (and incontinence is considered to be that, not by me but by many people) privacy is not emphasized by institutions. I could give all sorts of examples. But as I said, with 24/7 you must take the good with the bad
>I have worn to class when I was still in uni and had the luxury of just sitting quietly in the back of the room for hours on end, and while getting to be diapered was obviously great, the change of setting from being at home really didn't do much for me. Admittedly I'm just antisocial to begin with, so to my mind the best way to stop my fun from being spoiled by anyone else is to just keep them away from it. The half of my day I'm at home or running simple errands and able to wear is more than enough to keep me happy.
Yeah, I understand. I think that's the difference between wanting diapers as a lifestyle (essentially incontinence as a lifestyle) and just wanting them as an activity. Most people think they want the former but actually want the latter (which is good, I don't portray my attempts at incontinence as anything to be emulated lol--but it works for me). Did you end up changing it in public on these occasions or did you wait until home?
>If my memory serves me correctly I probably stopped wearing during the day at around 8/9, and at night around 10/11.
Likewise for me, but shifted forward by 1-2 years. Started to wear sporadically as a teenager just for comfort and a 'safety net' as you say. Went to 24/7 a little later
>Not all of that was due to control issues, but at least partially just because of a lack of confidence on my part and that desire for a safety net/routine to stick with.
I feel like those two things may be the same thing in essence; the desire from a safety net/lack of confidence stems from control issues? After all, most kids don't struggle too much after potty-training, but you and I did
How was your parents' reaction to your wearing at a relatively late age?
>Growing up our property wasn't secluded enough that I could run around nude with any regularity, but nakedness wasn't half as stigmatized as I feel like it is with most (American) families.
Was this for your whole childhood or just when you were young? My experience here has been people don't mind kids' nudity (on beaches, parks, playing in fountains etc). But after puberty, less acceptable especially in the cities. Growing up I was acutely aware and sad I would have to start wearing a swimsuit at the pool when I was older :(
>Whether for the sake of convenience or just as a chance to let your hair down, I think that family-sanctioned opportunities to be nude are a great thing. The last thing I think a kid deserves is the belief that their body is somehow too offensive to show even to parents, and while it didn't lead me straight in to nudism, it wasn't at all challenging for me to relate to the idea that nudity doesn't have to be a taboo.
Have nothing to add to this, it's completely correct and true. My parents imbued me with the idea that shame over our appearance and our bodies generally is silly, which was an excellent thing to hear since I sometimes felt troubled over my incontinence issues growing up. In general kids who grow up in accepting families are more comfortable in their own skin. So I suppose you plan to raise any kids you have along the principles you mentioned?
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