>ABDL diapers are expensive
Which is precisely because of the lack of acceptance making it niche.
>absolutely need to be able to go down to a physical store for diapers for some reason or want to be wearing all the time
Yeah, incontinent people, for one. It's ridiculous how they can't buy the products they actually need in stores.
>Just vanilla sex and masturbation requires some privacy (unless you're living in some sort of isolated free love community) because people generally don't want to randomly see or hear other people fucking or fapping/schlicking in public
There's a world of difference between fapping and simply wearing underwear under your clothes. If people can accept trans, they sure as fuck should be able to accept people wearing different underwear.
>Normal people generally don't want to be next to someone who just shit or pissed themselves. It's bodily waste and most people are naturally disgusted by anything to do with bodily waste
Putting aside how ABDLs don't necessarily use them at all, diapers and odor-killing pills like activated charcoal are how incontinent people are able to function in society. Piss and shit would still exist without diapers, so diapers aren't the actual issue. Diapers make bodily waste LESS disgusting.
>People only tolerate it with medical incontinence
No. No, they really, really don't. Have you ever read about the shit they go through, be it at school, work, their love lives and even at the hospital? The truth of the matter is that people only don't tolerate people wearing diapers past babyhood because they're bombarded with hateful lies about how diapers are only for babies during potty training. If you have any form of empathy, you should be supporting those who need to wear them by calling out negative attitudes towards them wherever you can.
>Complaining that ABDL isn't mainstream accepted is like insisting that people shouldn't have a problem with a guy walking into a bar or restaurant naked or wearing a gimp suit or openly carrying around a sex toy and sitting next to you.
No, it's like saying a guy shouldn't be treated like a potential rapist and risk losing everything if someone rummages through his drawers without his permission and finds a pair of panties in there. Unless you're a literal baby boomer or a trust fund baby, having a house to yourself hasn't been a guarantee for decades, and even then, you'd need to be forever alone unless you miraculously find someone who isn't a hateful vindictive little bitch.
>you need to have discretion with sex, fetishes, and kinks to avoid causing offense.
Cool, do you say the same thing about them speaking ill of fetishes and offending fetishists too, or are you just a hypocrite licking the boots of abusive people? Is it okay for us to react in the same way as black people being called the N-word whenever people speak of adult diapers with disgust? It's easy to speak ill of forcing fetishes on others, but it logically follows that forcing one's turn-offs on others would be just as bad, you know.
>It's not like being gay
Yeah, we're actually oppressed rather than privileged with the entire mainstream media and major companies openly supporting us. Your strawman of people wanting to be able to buy diapers at the store without getting harassed somehow being the same as flaunting their underwear is really forced and does nothing to obscure the actual issue of how our situation is much like that of gays in Saudi Arabia. If you don't think our situation needs to improve, you are either sheltered as fuck, or not an ABDL at all but rather a bad faith actor trying to undermine us.